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"Can I Marry Him with the Hope of Changing Him?" - advice from Sheikh Ibn 'Uthaymīn (may Allah have mercy on him) يخطب الرجل امرأة ملتزمة وهو غير ملتزم، وتحب أن تتزوج به، A man who is not religiously committed proposes to a religiously committed woman, and she wishes to marry him. وتقول: لعل الله أن يهديه على يدي، She says: 'Perhaps Allah will guide him through me.' وهذا عمل منتظر فلا ندري، This is something that is awaited (and uncertain), so we do not know. فالمنظور الذي أمامنا الآن: أنه غير ملتزم، However, the (current reality) that is seen before us now is that he is not religiously committed. فإذا قالت: لعل الله أن يهديه على يدي، So, if she says: 'Perhaps Allah will guide him through me,' قلنا: ولعل الله أن يضلك على يديه، وكله متوقع، we would say: 'And perhaps Allah will misguide you through him,' which is also possible. وكونك تضلين على يديه أقرب من كونه يهدى على يديك؛ In fact, the likelihood of you being misguided by him is greater than the likelihood of him being guided by you, لأن المعروف أن سلطة الرجل على المرأة أقوى من سلطتها عليه. because it is known that the man's influence over the woman is stronger than her influence over him."
