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Ready to get married the halal way? Find your other half on SOK Match: https://sokmatch.com/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=description&utm_campaign=marriage-qna&utm_content=qna-marriage-12 What are the most important questions to ask a prospect, and how do you spot a genuine Salafi rather than someone who only presents that way? Ustadh AbdulAziz Al-Haqqan says this question is worth the whole session. Ask who his mashayikh are, who he takes fatwa from and what he studied. Ask whether he travels or stays home, whether she wants to go out twice a week or twice a year, what he does with free time, whether he plays video games. Things in common strengthen the bond; silence now ends in 'we did not know'. And never say 'she does not wear hijab, I will guide her': guidance is in Allah's hands, and even Nuh could not guide his own son. From the Marriage Q&A session of SOK Academy with SOK Match. 📖 https://www.sokacademy.com/live?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=description&utm_campaign=marriage-qna&utm_content=qna-marriage-12 (online academy) : Courses taught by Sheikh AbdulAziz Al-Haqqan following the literature of the prominent scholars of Islamic history 📱Social Media of Ustadh AbdulAziz Al-Haqqan حفظه الله : https://linktr.ee/gardenofilm Question number six, what are the most important questions to ask when prospecting someone for a marriage these days? Wallahi, this is so crucial. Let me continue. And how does a person spot a genuine Salafi potential rather than someone who only presents themselves that way? First of all, don't do the mistake that many, many people do. Brothers, hold on. Focus with me. This question is worth this whole session. This question right here is worth the whole session. Focus. All of you. What do the brothers and sisters do? Wallahi, al-naẓrah al-sharʿiyyah, they sit down. How are you? This and that. Wallahi, what is your education? Wallahi, she seems nice. Who are your mashayikh? My mashayikh, I saw she's beautiful, but he's handsome. They get married. Got married. She tells him, we didn't go out. He says, yeah, but I don't like going out. She says, I cannot, but I cannot handle sitting at home. She says, he's like, no, but I cannot. Subhanallah. And she says, no, you have. We have to go out two times, at least a week. And I cannot take this. Not just that. Some of our sisters, may Allah protect us and them. They want to go out two times a day. No, they cannot. And there are some brothers that are what? That want to go out two times a year. They don't want to go out. They just want to sit at home. You didn't make us travel. Why didn't you take us on a trip? I want to. I don't like traveling. We don't have the finances for traveling. Oh, this life is unbearable. Problems start happening. Get to know the sister and get to know the brother. Wallahi, I'm spending my time at the masjid. What is this? This is not a life. Why are you always sitting at the masjid? I'm seeking knowledge. What do you mean? Did I tell you I'm sitting somewhere that is bad? No, but I don't want you always in the masjid. No, no, no, no. The most important questions that you ask are these. Sister, you can ask and she asks as well. First of all, who are his mashayikh? Who does he take fatwa from? What did he study? So that you know, once he starts naming people that are sects or mubtadiʿ, I understand who the brother is. And you see what he studied and who he takes from and so on and so on and same thing with the sister. And then if you're somebody that travels a lot and you want a wife that travels with you a lot, don't pick a wife that you haven't asked her these things. You tell her I travel a lot. I have to try. I have to travel five times a year. That's a must in my life. Is that something you're interested in? Is this something that goes with you? And she would reply to you like a woman. Yes or she would say no. I'm someone that's always at home. Same thing, the opposite. The brother says I don't like traveling. I'm a
