Ruling on giving salam to the female cousin (from the father’s side) - Shaykh Sālih al Luhaydān

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Ruling on giving salam to the female cousin (from the father’s side) - Sheikh Saleh al-Luhaydan رحمه الله [السؤال:] ‎يقول هل أسلم على بنات بنت عمي لانهم يقولون The questioner asks: Should I give salaam (Islamic greeting) to my female cousin’s daughters? Because people tell them ‎انه خالكن وانا امتنعت عن ذلك فكيف اعمل؟ that “he is just like your uncle!” However, I avoid giving them salaam. How should I approach this? [الجواب:] ‎الجواب ان بنت العم اجنبية من ابن عمها The answer is that the female cousin is a stranger to her male cousin. ‎لا يصافحها ولا يقبلها وأما السلام باللسان He does not shake her hand nor kiss her. However, with regards to giving greetings verbally ‎كإلقاء السلام عليها، تحية الاسلام، او ان يسألها عن like the salam (i.e., the Islamic greeting) or asking her about ‎صحتها او ان يحييها ويرحب بها فهذا كله مباح her health or welcoming her, then this is all allowed. ‎وقد قال النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم مرحبا بام هانئ لما سأل من هذه And the Prophet ﷺ had said: “Welcome O’ Umm Haani’.” This was when he ﷺ had asked “who is this?” ‎وقالت ام هانئ، وهي بنت عمه، قال مرحبا بام هانى، and she replied “Umm Haani’,” and she was his cousin, so he ﷺ said “Welcome O’ Umm Haani’.” [Bukhari 357] ‎فالتسليم باللسان وإلقاء التحية So giving the salaam verbally, sending greetings, and ‎والسوال عن الصحة asking about one’s health ‎هذه من الأمور المباحة يقولها الرجل لقريباته are all permissible matters. The man may say them to his female relatives. ‎والممنوع ان يصافحها أو يقبلها أو تبدي محاسنها من وجه وغيره However, what is not allowed is for him to shake her hand or kiss her. Or for her to expose some of her beauties like her face or other than that. ‎وبالله التوفيق And with Allah success is granted.